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Friday, November 13, 2015

Don't knock it till you try it. By Kimberly Evans.






This is only a very small start of a conversation. This is a bit jumbled up, and scattered, because it is a big issue. But it is an attempt to try to change how we think and behave. If you read this and sight back all the reasons it will never work, show me how you have tried first. Show me how you have added to the solution and have not given up. You certainly can’t expect to look around right now and see the change. It has not happened yet. We are the seeds, that can grow into big strong trees. It starts with us, and you can feel the positive change today, if you believe it is possible.

All of the horrors of the world can start to be healed, IF today, WE start to think and behave differently. Collectively. World peace is possible, and it starts with knowing it is, believing you have the power to help see it happen, and taking steps to make it happen. I am positive that we all have the power to see this happen. Absolutely certain. I have put together this seemingly long list of ideas that all blend together to showcase how easy it can be. Will it take work – yes, the most challenging kind of work you have done yet. But by far the most rewarding because you will be a part of the most exciting movement ever – peace on earth. It starts with you. Life is not a series of individual problems, but it sure can feel that way if we don’t focus on the big picture. For instance, here are some small, individual problems:

·       We are told that all politicians lie, but we must vote. We should instead be encouraged to go to town meetings. Kids should be allowed to go with parents, so they can learn how to get to know the people running in their town. The meetings should not be some formal stuffy occasion, but a gather and greet. Heck, maybe they are, I have never been. We should know what the issues are in own area, and feel connected to making positive change, or keeping the good stable.
·       The news is scary and depressing and yet we are told to keep up with current events. We should instead turn off the news and be peaceful to each other.
·       People are starving, and yet there is an abundance of food. So much food is thrown out daily.
·       People are homeless and yet there are empty houses with new ones being built daily. Same with buildings.
·       And on and on and on and on with individual real life problems, all with solutions.

We are taught to be nice, as children, but so many adults are unkind to each other. Parents, yes, they are human, and yes, they won’t be perfect, but they need to do much, much, much better, in general. Parents are the cause of the “kids these days”, not the kids. The kids just got here. When they were born, they were a blank canvas. Yes, they came with a disposition and an IQ, but that is about it.  Elementary kids hug and kiss each other. They are happy to see each other. They go to school with excitement. Teachers and parents watch as they become, us. They become us. They learn what we show them. In our houses, in our schools, and on the news. Parents need to talk to other parents much more. We need to go backwards in a way and connect with our neighbors. We need to get our kids back outside playing with each other.  We need to stop play dates and organized sports at a young age. We adults need to get to know each other, and be childlike in our approach to life. We need to laugh, be silly, have fun, and be happy to see each other. Smile at everyone you see. Be kind. Help each other.

Depression/anxiety. It is a wonder not every single child has it. Us adults make this world a very depressing and anxiety ridden place to be. We talk so negatively about so many things. Stress, pressure, the holidays, the bills, the people, OH, the awful people in this world. We vent, and complain, and back stab and argue and walk around tired and mopey. Or, we drink too much or shop too much or eat too much.

WE are not being good role models. We are often totally hypocritical and it is only going to change when we change it.

We need to stop complaining about Facebook. There are millions of amazing pages that are inspiring and insightful and interesting and funny. If you don’t like what you are seeing, you can control that. You get to choose what you see. We are not victims. We are free to decide. We need to teach the kids how to use Facebook in a very fun and creative way. If not Facebook, Instagram or twitter or snap chat, or whatever. None of it is bad, if we all teach our kids, by example, how to be nice.

If we do just what we are doing now, things will remain in this vicious cycle. We are born happy, we slowly become over whelmed and think life is hard. We may start to see that we could have done it differently but it seems too daunting, and then, we die. But, we can actually realize, that if we all, or mostly all, work together, we actually can make a very real, and powerful and positive change.

The big point is, we need to be united. We need to raise our families to be friends with all the other families. We don’t’ need to have the same view points, but we need to be respectful and kind. We need to all live as we did in kindergarten, in regards to our relationships. We need to teach our children to continue to love each other, and play together, and us adults are the only ones who can make the change. We can. We actually can. We could create a grass roots movement that comes up with a plan and goes around educating the younger generation how to do it better than it has been done. We can educate ourselves on how to break this cycle, and then teach others how to do it. It would all be volunteer and on our own time. No money needed, only time and passion to see a wonderful change. Or, as a small step in the right direction, just start only sharing positive things on Facebook. Share the message that you are going to be nice to everyone, from now on. Be the one who shares the positive messages – that have nothing to do with organized religion, and everything to do with inclusion and acceptance, and love. Stop yourself if you start to complain about your day, or your co-worker, or your neighbor, or anything. Tell yourself the stuff you tell your kids. Get very familiar with what being hypocritical is, and make it your daily mission to learn how not to do it. We were all kids once. We were all so happy and cute and loving. We still are!!! Kids are amazing, and we are amazing!!! People are not bad. This world is not filled with bad people. It may be filled with scared and confused people, but we are those people. WE are it!!

About being hypocritical:

About learning how not to be:

It's so easy to judge others or dish out advice you never plan to follow. The problem is, you're just showing others you're a hypocrite. Many people don't even realize they're being a hypocrite until someone points it out. The problem is, once you do know, how do you stop? With a little self-awareness, it's actually fairly easy to stop being a hypocrite.
1. STOP TALKING ABOUT OTHERS
Hypocrites are well known for bad mouthing others behind their backs. They pretend to be friends, but then talk about the person behind their back. Trust me, the other person will find out. Odds are, you'll end up losing the trust of everyone around you in the process. An easy to stop the hypocrite cycle is to simply stop saying bad things about people unless you're willing to say it to the person's face.
2. FOLLOW YOUR OWN ADVICE
Telling others what they should and shouldn't do is great as long as you're willing to take the same advice. Many hypocrites love giving out advice and it's often good advice too. The problem is, they rarely follow it themselves. Listen to your own words when talking to others. Could you benefit as well? Are you asking someone else to make a positive change? Consider doing the same thing so you serve as a good example to others.
3. STICK TO YOUR BELIEFS AND OPINIONS
It's fine to change your mind, but it's hypocritical to randomly change your beliefs and opinions to fit in with what others say or do. Many hypocrites tend to be very vocal about their opinions, but they never actually stand by those opinions. To them, it's more about politics than having real beliefs. Sit down and figure out what you believe in and stand by it no matter what others say.
4. DON'T JUDGE WITHOUT FACTS
How many of us watch a news story and immediately judge the people without any real facts? Hypocrites love to judge others and they don't really care whether all the facts are in or not. I struggle with this one sometimes as I tend to judge based on a first impression. However, how do I know what the other person is going through? It pays to reserve judgment until you know more about someone.
5. REMEMBER YOU'RE NOT PERFECT
While not all hypocrites think they're perfect, many do. They're ready to call out others on every mistake, but somehow they forget about all the mistakes they've made. Honestly, call a hypocrite out and watch how quickly they seem to have developed amnesia. Before you start condemning others, think about the skeletons in your own closet. No one is perfect and remembering that helps you stop being a hypocrite.
6. ACCEPT RESPONSIBILITY
Odds are, you've seen classmates or co-workers who always place blame on others. They hardly get anything done, but by passing the blame on to someone else, they make themselves look better. Avoid being a hypocrite by taking responsibility for your own actions. You didn't study and failed a test? Don't point out that someone else did worse than you. Instead, accept you made a mistake and focus on doing better next time.
7. LEARN SOMETHING COMPLETELY NEW
Many hypocrites believe they're always smarter than everyone else. Sometimes it takes being in a situation where you know nothing to make you stop being a hypocrite. Try taking a class or learning a new skill from an expert. It's a humbling experience and makes you feel like a normal person. Do this regularly and you'll notice yourself becoming less of a hypocrite.
8. ASK FOR HELP
It's hard to stop doing something if you don't realize you're doing it. Ask your closest friends and family to point out when you're being hypocritical. It'll hurt at first, but you'll create strong bonds by doing it. Ask them what you did wrong and how you could do it differently. It'll take some time, but it does work. Only do this with people you truly trust to ensure you're being guided in the right direction.
9. STOP LYING
I have to admit that I'm a little jealous of major hypocrites. They're so incredibly creative when it comes to lying. They put so much conviction behind it. The idea, of course, is to always show themselves in the best light. However, others know you're lying. Avoid playing the hypocrite and just be honest. Even if it makes you look bad, others will appreciate the honesty.
We're all guilty of being hypocrites from time to time, but if it's a chronic problem, try paying attention to your actions. It is possible to change and you'll notice a vast improvement in your relationships as a result. Do your friends consider you to be a hypocrite?

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